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Common Questions

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a model accepted by the American Psychological Association as empirically validated. It means that EFT is an approach that has been tested and has been proven to work. In an era of brief and briefer therapy, it is tempting to try and find an approach that is reduced to quick fixes. EFT is not a simplistic model, but uses a safe and collaborative environment to focus on what matters (i.e., the "root of the issue") in order to affect lasting change through safe attachment. At its essence, EFT combines an attachment lens (John Bowlby's Attachment Theory, 1969) with experiential therapy. During counseling sessions, we work in real-time and focus on the here and now.
EFT is a systematic and tested intervention to:
    *  reduce distress in adult love relationships and;
    *  create more secure attachment bonds.
The title Emotionally Focused Therapy reflects on the priority given to emotions as a key organizer of our inner experiences and key interactions in love relationships. Emotion pulls for and organizes key responses in close relationships. A sharp focus on emotion is seen as the essential transforming element in effective couple therapy.

How can therapy help me?

A number of benefits are available from participating in therapy. Therapists can provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies for issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship troubles, unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress management, body image issues and creative blocks. Many people also find that counselors can be a tremendous asset to managing personal growth, interpersonal relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, and the hassles of daily life. Therapists can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn. Some of the benefits available from therapy include:
  • Attaining a better understanding of yourself, your goals and values
  • Developing skills for improving your relationships
  • Finding resolution to the issues or concerns that led you to seek therapy
  • Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
  • Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
  • Improving communications and listening skills
  • Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
  • Discovering new ways to solve problems in your family or marriage
  • Improving your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence

Do I really need therapy?  I can usually handle my problems.  
Everyone goes through challenging situations in life, and while you may have successfully navigated through other difficulties you've faced, there's nothing wrong with seeking out extra support when you need it. In fact, therapy is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired. You are taking responsibility by accepting where you're at in life and making a commitment to change the situation by seeking therapy. Therapy provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face. 

Why do people go to therapy and how do I know if it is right for me?

People have many different motivations for coming to therapy.   Some may be going through a major life transition (unemployment, divorce, new job, etc.), or are not handling stressful circumstances well.  Some people need assistance managing a range of other issues such as low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, addictions, relationship problems, spiritual conflicts and creative blocks.  Therapy can help provide some much needed encouragement and help with skills to get them through these periods.  Others may be at a point where they are ready to learn more about themselves or want to be more effective with their goals in life.   In short, people seeking psychotherapy are ready to meet the challenges in their lives and ready to make changes in their lives. 
What about medication vs. psychotherapy?  
It is well established that the long-term solution to mental and emotional problems and the pain they cause cannot be solved solely by medication. Instead of just treating the symptom, therapy addresses the cause of our distress and the behavior patterns that curb our progress. You can best achieve sustainable growth and a greater sense of well-being with an integrative approach to wellness.  Working with your medical doctor you can determine what's best for you, and in some cases a combination of medication and therapy is the right course of action. 
Do you take insurance, and how does that work?
Elpis Counseling, PLLC does not bill insurance providers directly at this time. If you would like to use insurance to pay for sessions, you are welcome to submit a receipt from Elpis Counseling, PLLC to your insurance carrier. Many insurance companies will reimburse their clients with a receipt of services rendered. We are happy to provide a Superbill for each calendar month detailing your billed services. We do not guarantee reimbursement from any given company and we do not bill insurance companies directly. 

To determine if you have mental health coverage through your insurance carrier, the first thing you should do is call them.  Check your coverage carefully and make sure you understand their answers.  Some helpful questions you can ask them:
  • What are my mental health benefits?
  • What is the coverage amount per therapy session?
  • How many therapy sessions does my plan cover?
  • How much does my insurance pay for an out-of-network provider?
  • Is approval required from my primary care physician? 
Does what we talk about in therapy remain confidential?
Confidentiality is one of the most important components between a client and psychotherapist. Successful therapy requires a high degree of trust with highly sensitive subject matter that is usually not discussed anywhere but the therapist's office. Your treatment here is confidential. Information about you can only be released if it is specifically authorized by you with a written Release of Information form. This release is valid for 90 days, and it can be revoked at any time at your request.
However, state law and professional ethics require therapists to maintain confidentiality except for the following situations:
* Suspected past or present abuse or neglect of children or dependent adults reported to the authorities, including Child Protection and law enforcement, based on information provided by the client or collateral sources.
* If the therapist has reason to suspect the client is seriously in danger of harming him/herself or has threated to harm another person, or the inability to meet basic personal needs.
* In some situations, the courts may subpoena treatment records.


Can you help me in court?

It is the policy of this agency to not get involved in court proceedings.